“Ohhh! That’s sexy!!”

What popped into your mind when you read that? Maybe a sultry red dress, a lacy bra that hugs in all the right places, or a smoldering, slow-motion movie kiss. Sexy is often packaged as lingerie, steamy bedroom moments, or celebrities dripping in confidence. But here’s the thing—sexy is SO much more than that.

For me, feeling sexy isn’t just about what I wear or how I look; it’s a vibe. It’s an energy. It’s how I show up in my life and the things that make me feel powerful, present, and oh-so-alive. And let me tell you, some of the things that make me feel sexy AF are not what you’d expect.

Here are 10 unconventional things that make me feel sexy AF—and they might just work for you too!

1. Cleaning My Home

Listen, nothing makes me feel more in control of my life (and my sexy energy) than a freshly cleaned space. Sweeping away the dust? That’s basically clearing stagnant energy. Fresh sheets? That’s an instant upgrade to my pleasure palace. And don’t even get me started on vacuum lines—pure satisfaction.

2. Making My Home Smell Good

A sexy space deserves sexy scents. Lighting a candle, diffusing some essential oils, or spritzing a little linen spray makes my entire space feel like a bougie AF retreat. And when my home smells divine, I feel divine.

3. Making Goals and CRUSHING Them

Nothing gets my confidence soaring like setting a goal and absolutely smashing it. Whether it’s hitting a financial milestone, reaching a fitness goal, or launching a new offer in my business, achievement makes me feel unstoppable. And you know what’s sexy? That boss energy.

4. Getting My Daily To-Do List Done

It might sound boring, but there is something undeniably satisfying about checking things off a list. My daily tasks? Reading, budgeting my money, calling my family, and taking care of me. When I handle my business, I feel on top of my life—and that’s a power move.

5. Taking a Shower in Candlelight

Regular showers? Basic. Showers by candlelight? A whole sensual experience. The soft flicker of the candles, the warm water cascading down my body—it's an instant mood shift. I emerge feeling like an absolute goddess.

6. Cooking All My Meals

There’s something sexy about knowing exactly what’s going into my body and treating food as an act of self-love. Slicing, sautéing, plating—cooking is a full-body, sensual experience. And let’s be real, cooking for yourself is an underrated form of foreplay.

7. Learning a New Skill

Nothing makes me feel more alive than expanding my mind. Whether it’s trying a new dance style, learning a new language, or deep-diving into a fascinating book, there is something hot about investing in myself.

8. Finishing a Book from Start to Finish

There’s a deep satisfaction in closing a book after reading the final sentence. It makes me feel accomplished, nourished, and sometimes even turned on (depending on the book, of course). It’s an intellectual flex, and I love that for me.

9. Getting My Work To-Do List Done

Running my own coaching business means I always have a million things to do—emails, client calls, content creation, social media, writing blog posts (like this one!). But when I knock out that to-do list? Whew! That level of accomplishment? Sexy as hell.

10. Being Kind to Myself & Others

Sexy isn’t just about what’s on the outside. It’s an energy. When I speak kindly to myself, when I show up with love and compassion, when I radiate warmth to those around me—that is magnetic. That is confidence. That is the sexiest thing of all.

Sexy isn’t just about looks, lingerie, or how much skin you’re showing. It’s about how you feel inside your own skin. And for me, feeling sexy AF is about living in alignment with my desires, treating myself with care, and owning my power.